Some of my YouTube subscribers wanted to understand why mind games were recommended to get love whereas the manifesting world discourages against manipulation.
Are you using mind games without realising it?
What are mind games? Simply said, mind games or mind tricks is manipulation and force. Using force is the exact opposite of natural manifesting. Is it bad? Well, it is counterproductive. And it is also stepping into the mental prison of falsely believing that only manipulation will get you the guy (or girl).
Mind tricks are typically the preferred solution to insecure, narcissist or desperate people. Now, let’s be honest here. The narcissist will use that tool knowingly. But insecure or desperate individuals don’t want to be manipulating others to be loved! And yet, it would be fun to calculate the number of videos saying “no contact to get your ex”, or “don’t tell your guy you love them”, “don’t be available for your person”.
This type of advice is dangerous to the sensitive person who genuinely wants to manifest their specific person and is ready to try anything to experience that manifestation. And why shouldn’t they? I mean, the advice is for free in videos and promises to get you your crush. But then what? No one is explaining that this will backfire if you stay the same version of yourself. If you remain insecure, if you keep doubting your person will want to stay with you, and so on.
Those videos are popular but please think if you’d rather get your manifestation short term or long term.
How can you tell if you are using mind games to manifest your SP?
Other than the dating videos or even manifesting videos “get them obsessed with you”, etc, that I was mentioning, mind games would typically be if you:
- Repeat empty affirmations “my SP is obsessed with me”, “my SP brings me flowers all the time”, to the point of even repeating “Bring me flowers, get me Chinese food, call me now”. That’s why I developed a course on affirmations because they do work, and they are extra powerful, BUT you can use them with power rather than force. Funny enough, when you affirm with power, affirmations work wonders. This leads to my second point being that no SP is a slave:
- Reassure yourself that others have no free will and therefore cannot think by themselves. My issue with this type of message (vehiculated by some videos) is that there seems to be a confusion among some (not all) newly awakened manifestors. Indeed, some videos imply that since you and I are the only ones with free will, using force on others is ok. And it is ok because they have no free will anyway. Do I dare mentioning videos suggesting that SPs are mere puppets or dolls? Oh dear. Respecting our SP is the bare minimum if we want to be with them, don’t you think?
I used mind games in the past, not realising what I was doing. That’s why I can relate when my clients tell me that they are willing to try anything to be with their SP.
But mind games can only be short term. Your best course of action is to think ahead and think “long-term”. And long-term cannot coincide with mind games, sorry.
Here is a video you should find interesting on mind games when manifesting a specific person:
What does “The SP will conform” mean, and what it doesn’t
This usually goes along the ‘I am the only one with free will’ mentality.
Your SP will conform to you. However, your SP will conform to you WITHOUT any mind games, ONLY as you change your perspective. Not changing them, changing you. Not changing your appearance or attitude or whatever, no, only your perception. And, as you change your perspective on others, others will reflect back that change.
A change will occur as you increase your own self-value. As she values herself, she is going to think ‘of course, John wants to be with me because of all my qualities’, etc. See the difference? Instead of mentally forcing the SP to conform to her wishes, Mary is taking the stand that because she is a good catch, obviously John wants to be with her in a relationship. As she works on her self-concept and within her self-concept, her self-value, she is manifesting John from a powerful place, not a forceful place.
You may wonder if the difference is that important. In fact, the difference can be seen in the long run. Because if Mary was insecure and succeeded in getting John back in her life for a couple of weeks, she would fear that John would leave her again. Instead, after working on herself, Mary will not push out from her inner being any chance of John leaving her because John will appreciate her trust in him and her self-confidence.
In one sentence, if you think to yourself ‘I hope my SP will stay with me”, you are pushing out to your SP, without realising it ‘you have no reason to stay with me, I am not good for you”. See how your thoughts can work for you or against you?
3 tips to manifest your SP without using mind games
#1 – Know why you want your SP (the new version of your SP)
This headline might have surprised you. In fact, you would tell me “it is because I love my SP”, “it is because my SP is the only one to make me feel that way”, etc. This is not what I am referring to.
When you think that way, the risk is that you may feel that you NEED your specific person to feel a certain way, and indirectly, to be happy. When you need a manifestation to be happy, to feel good, you are eluding it de facto. Indeed, your manifestation has your name written on it as soon as you formulate it mentally or in your heart. But when you need it, you energetically cling to it. That is, to the last version of it with negative thinking, most of the time.
Let’s take an example: Mary is desperate to be back with John. She repeats her affirmations as if her life depended on them. What Mary is doing is that she is clinging to the version of John who distanced himself from her. When you want your SP BACK, you may want the next relationship with them to be positive and long lasting. If you try to re-enact the old relationship, you risk experiencing the same outcome. When you detach from the old and happily think about a new relationship with a new version of you and a new version of your specific person, you are choosing a winning strategy.
Knowing the new version of your SP is having the inner knowing of the qualities that they have, should have they not displayed all of them by now. If they have already displayed the qualities that you are looking for in a partner, now is the time to focus on them rather than repeating affirmations such as “My SP loves me and only me” until you turn blue in the face. This type of empty affirmations is unlikely to make any manifestation visible to you.
#2 – Acknowledge what you bring to the table
No offense whatsoever, so let me be clear right away. I am not saying that you don’t have anything to bring to the table, on the contrary, I am implying that most of you are not considering your qualities as being a key element for your SP to be with you. And that’s a pity.
Indeed, when I directly ask you to list me your qualities, usually you either want to talk about your SP again, or you struggle to tell me how great you are.
Now, can you see how risky that is? If you consider your SP to be great, and you not to be so great, there is a mismatch that only force can bridge. If you were to base your manifestation from the fact that you are a great catch, I can assure you that you would manifest better, faster and more easily. Fact. So, please place the focus on you. I am not suggesting that you should forget about your SP, that would be a stupid move, but I would highly encourage you to place your good self in the relationship. After all, a relationship is about two people, and not your SP alone.
When you place yourself in the middle of your manifestation with your SP, you will not be using force anymore, you will not try and control your SP nor the outcome. You will position yourself in the ideal manifestation process.
#3 – Understand the difference between Universal Time and Earthy Time
I was guilty of this notion, which is why I have had to work on it big time. And I was guilty of stressing around time because I didn’t really understand the difference between the two. I am a realistic type of woman, and for me, one hour is always 60 minutes. Yes, but. Because there is a but.
Universal Time refers to the Universe. The Universe is a dimension that is not in our earthy dimension. On earth, there is density, and so, we need to go by the time given to us by Nature. Nature is our earthy environment. A flower grows according to a calendar imposed by mother Nature. An unborn baby grows according to a calendar imposed by Mother Nature.
Universal Time is not in terms of seconds, minutes, hours, weeks, months, years, decades, centuries. Universal Time is not linear, which is why some coaches say that manifestations are instant. My issue is that there is no explanation about Universal Time and Earthy Time, which creates a huge confusion among awakened manifestors. And so, naturally, because you hear that your manifestation should be instant, this creates stress. Plus, you are on the lookout for your manifestation. And you become discouraged as it is not that instant as far as Earthy Time is concerned!
So, please understand that having expectations that your manifestations should be instant or always very fast, may create false expectations as well as disillusions. On the contrary, as you relax on the timetable, you will remove a certain urgency, and will experience your SP rather quickly.
Conclusion
I will end this article by saying that you cannot fake an emotion, so please commit to the strategy that resonates the most with you and stick to it until your reality shifts to the one you have imagined.
If you’d like some guidance on how to increase your self-concept, including what your Universe is, how your beliefs are created and how you can recreate them, and so forth, this is for you: Selfconcept Foundational beliefs – Manifesting coaching on Love, Career & Well-being (zennumerostar.com)
If you wish to know how to create effective affirmations / inner conversations / inner stories, follow this link: Craft magnetic affirmations – Manifesting coaching on Love, Career & Well-being (zennumerostar.com)
And finally if you feel that you have been following the process but still struggle to manifest, this course is for you: Eliminate resistance in manifesting – Manifesting coaching on Love, Career & Well-being (zennumerostar.com)
I know you can do it, I believe in you, and on that note, Happy Manifesting! ❤️✨
Sabine is a manifesting coach with a passion to help her clients improve their love life and career. She believes that everything and everyone is energy, and that you are the operant power of your reality.
She uses the Law of Assumptions as taught by Neville Goddard, to which she has added her knowledge of NLP, of energy healing and numerology to drastically improve your self-concept and ease your manifestation.
She is passionate about what she does and wants to help you design the life you wish to experience!